Courses of emotional awareness and inner transformation
We all yearn to have sincere, intimate, and nurturing relationships, but it is hard for us to create and maintain them, because when we open ourselves to someone, sooner or later, our insecurities, armours, wounds and deeper sense of lack wake up.
When these difficulties are not adequately addressed, they provoke conflict, distrust, resentment, power struggles, isolation or dependency, sabotaging friendship, love and intimacy. We call this dynamic codependency.
Codependency can also manifest as a rejection or a barrier to love and intimacy, or as paralyzing fears, feelings of devaluation, disconnection of our power and creative energies, or the inability to open to change – to separate from people or situations that lead us to suffering-, to advance in our vital project and to feel fulfilled.
The origin of our codependency lies in the non-integrated experiences of our childhood that we unconsciously project in the partner, in friends and in figures of authority. Past experiences that marked us and that condition us now negatively in the form of fears, blocks, feelings of misunderstanding, shame or abandonment.
Healing the Inner Child
Behind our adult personality we have a very vulnerable and sensitive emotional base marked by the traumatic experiences of our childhood. We call this part of us: the inner child. In our daily lives the inner child perceives and interacts with the world around him unconsciously directing our emotions and our behaviour.
Ignorance, denial or minimization of our wounded inner child – from our emotional base -, causes us to attract people or circumstances that do not meet our needs, we often feel rejected or betrayed, we develop relationships that generate dependence, mistrust, resentment, feelings of guilt or powerlessness. Or let us try to alleviate our frustration or insecurity with addictive behaviour, locking ourselves in our own world, taking refuge behind an armour that increases the feeling of loneliness or emptiness.